Ever wonder what it looks like to be a work-at-home mom? I’ll give you a glimpse into what it looked like for me on this murky Monday in February.
I was woken up around 7:30 am by my husband (who is a superhero and had already been up with the older two kids since 6 am) just like nearly every other morning. He gently leaned in, touched my shoulder, and whispered that he was going downstairs to get in the shower and that the one year old’s milk was thawing in the sink. Yes, we still give him a bottle. He is the stereotypical “baby” of the family and gets nearly whatever he wants. Well, that is until the supply of breast milk in the deep freeze runs out next week. I already broke his heart by weaning him from nursing a few weeks ago. I fell back asleep for a good 15 minutes and then decided I better start my day since there were only about 17,435 things on my to-do list speeding through whatever part of my brain creates those lists. That and the fact that I could hear my four year old yelling from the bathroom that she needed help. Do they EVER learn to wipe themselves? After jumping out of bed and rushing to help her so she would stop shouting, I noticed that she was still in her pajamas. A quick reminder that she didn’t have preschool today, of course. This was the day that I would be BLESSED with having all three children (aged four and under) at home ALL day. Don’t get me wrong, I adore my kids and feel incredibly blessed to have three healthy children. However, I truly believe that it takes a village to raise them and I am incredibly thankful for the amazing teachers that help shape mine.
The rest of the day involved trails of cheerios from the kitchen to the living room, fighting over who got to pick what show to watch (because I am THAT parent who lets her kids watch TV all the time), and the incessant asking of whether or not it was lunch time when it was only 9 am. Snotty noses were wiped on my limbs as each child took their turn climbing up next to me on the couch while I attempted to complete tasks on my laptop, and we were all still in our pajamas at 2 pm. Once nap time rolled around I was finally able to do in 30 minutes what had taken me hours to try to complete while the kids were awake. Coaches of mine would tell you that I need to work on my calendar blocking and not try to work with so many distractions. They would be right. The point is that my day doesn’t look that much different than that of any parent at home with their child all day. I just choose to fill it in a bit more with things that I’m passionate about, give me energy, and help provide financially for our family.
I am continuing to learn how to manage being a work-at-home mom, but one thing I know for sure is that I am a better mom, wife, and friend because of it. I have some of the best sisters in Christ a girl could ask for who live all over the United States, got to take my husband on a free five year anniversary trip last fall, and get tons of time out with the girls. I can say with complete assurance that I know I am exactly where God wants me in this moment. Nearly five years ago when our first child came into this world I had no idea the level of emotion that I would experience. My desire to stay at home with my baby was overwhelming and completely more than I could possibly handle. I’m not a believer that “God doesn’t give you more than you can handle.” He absolutely gives us more than we can handle so that we learn to lean on Him. And when He provides, we give Him all the glory because He is deserving. The ways that He has provided for us over these last five years has been immeasurably more than I could have imagined. Not only financially, but in every way. He has given me a purpose beyond being a wife and mother. My passions are developing and my gifts are being cultivated daily. Who knew I could be a confident leader?
Are there days I feel like my kids would be better off at a child care center than having me yelling at them to stop pushing each other all day? Of course! Do I sometimes want to throw in the towel and get a job outside of the home? Absolutely! But I can’t, because I know that isn’t God’s path for me right now. Maybe later. I’ve recently learned to stop asking God to reveal my future and just have faith and trust in Him for the present. So that’s where I am. Completely at peace right here, having a dance party with my kids in the middle of the living room to “Can’t Stop the Feeling” by Justin Timberlake from the Trolls movie.